Counting the Cost

Jesus was direct: before you build, count the cost. Engagement is the season for counting, not just financial costs, but emotional, spiritual, and relational ones. Marriage will cost you your independence, your selfishness, and your right to always be right. It is the most rewarding investment you will ever make, but it is an investment nonetheless.

Counting the cost is not pessimism, it is wisdom. It means having honest conversations about expectations, boundaries, conflict styles, and faith practices. It means acknowledging that marriage will be hard sometimes, and deciding together that it is worth it anyway.

Do not enter covenant with rose-colored glasses. Enter with open eyes, a willing heart, and a firm foundation of faith. The tower you are building together will stand, but only if you build it with truth, intention, and the grace of God.